Comments on: The Dissolution of the Fellowship of Friends http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/ Wed, 23 May 2012 01:24:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Reshma http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-947030 Reshma Fri, 17 Jun 2011 03:50:59 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-947030 i wish more and more wives read this... Regarding this topic, I think that after marriage, the male psychology works in either of the 2 ways: 1)the males become a little confused as to how to keep on impressing their wives all their life (compounded by the wife's will for the same) and thus ending up sheilding their wives from the past or 2) they become so indifferent to the already-made-mundane-marriage-life (also partly contributed by the wife) that they forget the pleasure of reviving the camaredrie, spontaneity and the celebration of a time friends grew up together and after so many years, have a good laugh; being a wife, let me tell you that all wives would like to see that too and it would be refreshing. But if you are lucky to marry a friend (husband or wife), then all these possible thoughts for not attending the reunion shouldnt have been there at the first place. i wish more and more wives read this…
Regarding this topic, I think that after marriage, the male psychology works in either of the 2 ways: 1)the males become a little confused as to how to keep on impressing their wives all their life (compounded by the wife’s will for the same) and thus ending up sheilding their wives from the past or 2) they become so indifferent to the already-made-mundane-marriage-life (also partly contributed by the wife) that they forget the pleasure of reviving the camaredrie, spontaneity and the celebration of a time friends grew up together and after so many years, have a good laugh; being a wife, let me tell you that all wives would like to see that too and it would be refreshing. But if you are lucky to marry a friend (husband or wife), then all these possible thoughts for not attending the reunion shouldnt have been there at the first place.

]]> By: Anonymous http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1119 Anonymous Thu, 12 Jan 2006 16:32:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1119 Well, this article brings me to post some facts. I'm also a married good old friend of your's, or were I really a friend? Marriage do definitely pull apart friends of long time, but I think the main reason is official responsibilities. Otherwise how will you explain that there are 3 guys in Delhi, who are there for close to 2 yrs, who once used to be friends, all of them bachelors, but none has met the others. But I do agree that there are some, who probably want to avoid old buddies. Well, this article brings me to post some facts. I’m also a married good old friend of your’s, or were I really a friend? Marriage do definitely pull apart friends of long time, but I think the main reason is official responsibilities. Otherwise how will you explain that there are 3 guys in Delhi, who are there for close to 2 yrs, who once used to be friends, all of them bachelors, but none has met the others. But I do agree that there are some, who probably want to avoid old buddies.

]]> By: Anonymous http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1118 Anonymous Fri, 07 Oct 2005 08:55:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1118 Good article. But I must add its only one side of the story. Guys being embarrassed, hesitant to let their 'precious-halves' meet their friends , for fear of being exposed as not-so-smart-n-shareef-after-all.All this is because of a myth that girls are the 'dignified' species. Here's some news [ for those who didn't know !].One should see the dirt that girls indulge in.I leave it to your imaginaion-and its all true too ! Rather than feeling embarrassed , guys would then feel hesitant and suspicious taking their 'better'-halves out ! -X Good article. But I must add its only one side of the story. Guys being embarrassed, hesitant to let their ‘precious-halves’ meet their friends , for fear of being exposed as not-so-smart-n-shareef-after-all.All this is because of a myth that girls are the ‘dignified’ species. Here’s some news [ for those who didn't know !].One should see the dirt that girls indulge in.I leave it to your imaginaion-and its all true too !

Rather than feeling embarrassed , guys would then feel hesitant and suspicious taking their ‘better’-halves out !

-X

]]> By: GREATBONG http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1117 GREATBONG Wed, 21 Sep 2005 16:02:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1117 @Prahalathan, None of us call our friends "names".....and though your experience may be different (I do not know if you are married yet) what I have detailed is not something that is unique in any way to our batch or our educational context------because I have heard the same crib from people from diverse educational backgrounds. @Prahalathan,

None of us call our friends “names”…..and though your experience may be different (I do not know if you are married yet) what I have detailed is not something that is unique in any way to our batch or our educational context——because I have heard the same crib from people from diverse educational backgrounds.

]]> By: Prahalathan http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1116 Prahalathan Wed, 14 Sep 2005 18:56:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1116 I guess with your wife standing behind your back your post is understandable;) You're talking of your gang alone.. When compared to gals I don't think the attrition rate from guy gangs is so bad... If guys have a problem with being called names in front of their wives. How would gals feel being called names in front of their husbands? Really yours is a biased view... But then it's your BLOG your view Nice Post anyway! I guess with your wife standing behind your back your post is understandable;)
You’re talking of your gang alone..
When compared to gals I don’t think the attrition rate from guy gangs is so bad…
If guys have a problem with being called names in front of their wives. How would gals feel being called names in front of their husbands?
Really yours is a biased view… But then it’s your BLOG your view

Nice Post anyway!

]]> By: GREATBONG http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1115 GREATBONG Thu, 08 Sep 2005 14:56:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1115 @Prerona, no obligation in love...aha if that wasnt merely an ideal ! @Twilight Fairy, Yes there were friends who immediately stopped communicating after we graduated and those I understood. There were others who stood by for over 5 years---showing genuine affection, rushing to a friend's place at short notice, extremely pro-active in reunions and then they got married and whooosh in a flash, they dont recognize us any more. @Prerona, no obligation in love…aha if that wasnt merely an ideal !

@Twilight Fairy, Yes there were friends who immediately stopped communicating after we graduated and those I understood. There were others who stood by for over 5 years—showing genuine affection, rushing to a friend’s place at short notice, extremely pro-active in reunions and then they got married and whooosh in a flash, they dont recognize us any more.

]]> By: Twilight Fairy http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1114 Twilight Fairy Thu, 08 Sep 2005 12:59:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1114 It doesnt even need getting married..most ppl start behaving this way right after college and blame the lack of time, on the job, as if everybody else earns their money just sitting at home. It truly is the reason you penned in your last para. People just move on. They meet new people who they call best friends now, new social circles and new activities along with new activity groups. 'Old' friends are left far behind as if they never *were* friends. It doesnt even need getting married..most ppl start behaving this way right after college and blame the lack of time, on the job, as if everybody else earns their money just sitting at home. It truly is the reason you penned in your last para. People just move on. They meet new people who they call best friends now, new social circles and new activities along with new activity groups. ‘Old’ friends are left far behind as if they never *were* friends.

]]> By: Prerona http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1113 Prerona Wed, 07 Sep 2005 15:43:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1113 theres no obligation in 'love' :) yeah - i know what you mean - not arguing with that just trying to say this is why it might spook u and u might put it off theres no obligation in ‘love’ :)
yeah – i know what you mean – not arguing with that just trying to say this is why it might spook u and u might put it off

]]> By: GREATBONG http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1112 GREATBONG Wed, 07 Sep 2005 15:08:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1112 @Priya: Yes the last point, by common consent, seems to be the real reason. Which is quite disquieting because we "really" thought of us as friends for life. @Prerona: Well even if I dont know how she will take it, am I not obligated, for the sake of full disclosure, to show her that too? @Rimi: Evidently it is not an automatic assumption for most. And what pisses me off is that in order to appear goody goody to their wives, friends of mine will tell them---it was not my fault, so-and-so friend "made me do it"....booh hoo.... @Yourfan: Right on the ball there ! Its something I did not mention in the post but I totaly agree. There is some amount of implied competition as to whose wife is the "best" though I would not like to accept that I have ever engaged in it myself. @Gawker: :-)....trust Larry David to be brilliant... @Priya: Yes the last point, by common consent, seems to be the real reason. Which is quite disquieting because we “really” thought of us as friends for life.

@Prerona: Well even if I dont know how she will take it, am I not obligated, for the sake of full disclosure, to show her that too?

@Rimi: Evidently it is not an automatic assumption for most. And what pisses me off is that in order to appear goody goody to their wives, friends of mine will tell them—it was not my fault, so-and-so friend “made me do it”….booh hoo….

@Yourfan: Right on the ball there ! Its something I did not mention in the post but I totaly agree. There is some amount of implied competition as to whose wife is the “best” though I would not like to accept that I have ever engaged in it myself.

@Gawker: :-) ….trust Larry David to be brilliant…

]]> By: gawker http://greatbong.net/2005/09/04/the-dissolution-of-the-fellowship-of-friends/#comment-1111 gawker Tue, 06 Sep 2005 20:47:00 +0000 http://greatbong.net/?p=131#comment-1111 GEORGE: Ah you have no idea of the magnitude of this thing. If she is allowed to infiltrate this world, then George Costanza as you know him, Ceases to Exist! You see, right now, I have Relationship George, but there is also Independent George. That's the George you know, the George you grew up with -- Movie George, Coffee shop George, Liar George, Bawdy George. JERRY: I, I love that George. GEORGE: Me Too! And he's Dying Jerry! If Relationship George walks through this door, he will Kill Independent George! A George, divided against itself, Cannot Stand! GEORGE: Ah you have no idea of the magnitude of this thing. If she is
allowed to infiltrate this world, then George Costanza as you know him, Ceases to Exist! You see, right now, I have Relationship George, but
there is also Independent George. That’s the George you know, the
George you grew up with — Movie George, Coffee shop George, Liar
George, Bawdy George.

JERRY: I, I love that George.

GEORGE: Me Too! And he’s Dying Jerry! If Relationship George walks
through this door, he will Kill Independent George! A George, divided against itself, Cannot Stand!

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