You guys could have just corrected her misplaced idea about “pure and morally rich Indian woman and Indian culture”. Instead, you are taking her comments personally. For every positive responsible drinker, I can cite 10 examples where families have broken apart because of substance abuse.
Please don’t act as if alchohol abuse is not a possibility among pub hoppers.
After all, it takes one extra drink for even the most responsible drinker to get a DUI.

Smitha, I think you got a bit carried away with the ‘sharaafat’ talk. Those girls have rights too. The guys have actually broken the law here.
Also, if parents are worried about their kids’ evening life, they should have a talk with them about the ill effects of drinking, set a curfew. etc.
Vigilante Moral policing should never be encouraged.

Sorry to say this but it is people like you that foster such evil/ violent thoughts on values/culture etc..

My parents, both avid party-goers, are easily one of the best that anyone could have. A good parent is one who can balance things out and not necessarily one who believes in abstinence. My mom doesn’t drink anything other than wine (that too because its good for the heart) and is a wonderful mother. One who is open to ideas and opinions contrary to her school of thought as well. She wears westerns mainly not bceause she is ashamed to be Indian but because she is comfortable in them and can carry them of without that oh-I’m-trying-to-look-sixteen kind of an attitude.

I have always found it appalling that many people like you think the way you do. We live in a globalized society where the key is to remain open to things. Being open doesn’t mean you conform to ideas/norms you are not comfortable with; you just don’t enforce your opinions on others. Worse even in the Mangalore case, go about barbarically beating up women. *&^*^$ those B#$@%2! Yes I can abuse, and that doesn’t make me culturally deprived. I reserve it for likes of Muthalik.

Please for your sake and your children.. have an open mind and learn to respect individuality or else you will not be any better a mother than ‘those pub-going, mini skirted women’ you refer to with much Bharatiya nari chauvenism.

“Drinking has been part of our culture forever and ever. If I don’t drink, I risk offending our hallowed traditions!”.

Actually, it has been. Hindu scriptures are rife with events and incidents involving liqour, the consequences of which hav eoften been pprtrayed as being negative.
Many traditions and rituals also involve intoxications as part of an individual’s spiritual elevation.

“Personally I knew I’d never marry a woman who was a teetotaler or a vegetarian. And I didn’t. I guess my kid will turn out to be a serial killer or something – according to Smitha. Wish I’d known that before…”

I doubt if Smita went as far as you attribute her to be. There is no doubt that drunk parents do effect young minds. Nevertheless, your kid might turn out to be a serial killer even if he didnt touch booze

Most people I know love drinking as I do. Some can’t taste even a drop. Same with non-veg and vegetarian food. Doesn’t mean I should try and turn them into drinkers and meat eaters, or they should try and convert me to their philosophy, right.

As for the “drinking is bad” meme, it’s a total fallacy. Eating sugar is also bad. How much and how frequently is the problem – and that depends on the the individual.

Personally I knew I’d never marry a woman who was a teetotaler or a vegetarian. And I didn’t. I guess my kid will turn out to be a serial killer or something – according to Smitha. Wish I’d known that before…

@Smitha Take Clutz’s advise.
Also read ‘A thousand Splendid Suns’…
Bollywood movies and Saas bahu serials can get you seriously mixed up!

Shame on you. Please take your backward thinking elsewhere. I am a South Indian woman married to a European, I drink wine and I love cocktails, this doesnt mean i will make a bad mother/parent. Yes, I wear short skirts especially in the summer and my husband thinks I look great in them, whats wrong Smitha? jealous much?

My south indian father gave me my first gin and tonic at the age of 14.

My mother enjoys a glass of red wine once in awhile or a cold beer especially during the summer months in Chennai. So according to you this must have made her a bad mother?

Yes my parents drink, as do my in laws, my mother in law sunbathes in a bikini in the summer while sipping on a gin a tonic, she has been the best mother to her children, way better than you can or will ever be.

Its women like you, who will raise men that will want to marry virgins while they are far from it themselves.

Please educate yourself, or better yet take a break to travel the world, read some books, learn about other cultures,and most of all please cut the holier-than-thou attitude.

Nothing to do with anything I may or may not want to discuss.

peace