Who would have thought that behind the exquisite voice and the plump, “Bholi si surat” looks hides a playboy polygamist ?
Yes, I am talking about Udit Narayan who will now share his home and hearth with two ladies: his “pehla nesha” Ranjana Jha and “pehla nesha once again ” Deepa Narayan.
“Garam Dharam” having two wives– I understand.
Boney Kapoor– a little tough to believe. Especially when the second wife is Sridevi.
But Udit Narayan? And two wives?
I never saw that coming.
Well then what about polygamy? Many think that the main purpose of polygamy is to guarantee the man’s pleasure—-hot threesomes (on Satudays) and all that jazz. (Link courtesy Ali: the article linked here is a “must read”)
However what is forgotten is that polygamy is an institution that is intended to benefit women—-indeed it prevents women from getting lonely by creating lasting sisterhoods between multiple wives.
A cloth merchant, Tirthdas has two wives and knows the fine balancing act that goes into managing two wives! But impossible is nothing. “It was difficult to begin with but now things are in place.
My first wife Lata and my second wife Savitri live separately but we all meet up during festivals and are one family in happy and sad occasions,” says Tirthdas, who has two homes in Jantanagar.
“If I do not come home, one wife automatically assumes that I am with the other,” says Tirthdas [Times of India]
How wonderful ! Now how many monogamous houses are as functional as that?
The sad thing is that it’s just a few crazy chest-beaters who create all the fuss about sexual fidelity and condemn polygamy when it is, in many ways, so commonplace.
For instance, Deepa Narayan, Udit’s second wife had to laugh at the media circus surrounding such a mundane family problem.
So Udit accepted Ranjana as his wife and promised to provide for her maintenance and upkeep. Ranjana withdrew her complaint. And Deepa is busy dismissing it as a “Ghar ka jhagda… yeh to hota hi rahta hai. It was a big tamasha! I can only laugh after all this has happened. The only thing that disturbed me was how Ranjana had accused me for no reason.”
There are also more philosophical justifications for polygamy and how it is in a woman’s best interests—wars, children and sanctification of adultery but I shall not get into them.[ Interested readers may look here and here (this also explains, with a thought experiment, why polyandry is reprehensible but polygamy is perfectly reasonable)]
What however is forgotten among all these logical justifications is that allowing your husband another wife is the perfect gift for someone you really love [You are too old for porn, too young for Viagra. But I think you’re just right for another wife]
As “Lucky” Ali, a truly “lucky” , happily bigamous man says disarmingly:
“I love my first wife and love her even more for accepting my second wife the way she has.” But Ali admits that it isn’t easy to maintain two wives and finds it a grave responsibility. I hope that I can fulfill my duties adequately, but if I cant, I won’t be ashamed to admit that I have bitten off more than I can chew”.
Of course, some may argue that Lucky is always trying to bite more and more.
In the middle of the photo shoot, we catch him (Lucky Ali) staring at a shapely blonde in the swimming pool. Unabashed, he grins. â€œI have the glad eye. I told you I am a reactor (as opposed to actor)!â€ All the while, his wife of 10 years, Meaghan Jane aka Masooma aka Maymunah, has been siting in burqa-clad dignity watching daughter Tasmiyah (5) and son Taâ€™awwuz (7), frolic in the pool…………………..
Out of her earshot, I finally grill Ali with the one question I have been dying to ask: â€œHow many wives do you have?â€
â€œWhy, twoâ€¦how many did you think I had?â€
Very very romantic. Now tell me which woman would not give
his her right arm for this man?
And for Udit Narayan.